There has been a topic floating around in my world for a couple weeks, now. It has come in many forms, but always points back to the same issue.
First, there was a sermon about hurtful words. While, yes, I do believe it is important to remind people we must watch what we say, I believe it is equally important to remind people the words that are used against them, to hurt them, are just that: words. The saying “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt” is a very true statement. They only hurt if we LET them hurt. They will sting when they are thrown, but if our eyes and mind are fixed on God, we realize, quickly, that the only opinion of us that matters is that of God. We pray for the hurt sower, and move on with our happy days.
Next, a very dear person to me was in a bad spot where people were afraid they may hurt themselves… The issue is now, I believe, being dealt with, but that is a scary spot to be in. No matter what others are saying (or doing for that matter), at school or work, it is grains of sand compared to the love God has for us.
John 15:18, 19~“If the world hates you, you know that it has hated Me before it hated you. “If you were of the world, the world would love its own; but because you are not of the world, but I chose you out of the world, because of this the world hates you.…
The people of this world have an innate desire to hurt others. Perhaps it makes the hurt sower feel better about themselves? Perhaps the hurt sower is just unaware of the power they have to another individual? In any instance we have been chosen “out of this world”. We are not to follow the patterns of this world. We are to follow Jesus Christ.
The last instance was a discussion of kids making friends so they aren’t depressed later in life. While I do agree that human relationships are VERY important, I think we have to be realistic, and teach our children to be realistic, in that everyone is not going to like and agree with everyone else. We are called to love one another, but every one is not going to be “besties”. People are put in our lives, and people are taken from our lives. There is a reason for them all, but there are only a select few that will REALLY be our “friends”. The ones who really get us, and understand us…and vise versa. When we are making the best decisions we can, and we are doing our best to live like Jesus did, everyone isn’t going to like our decisions and the way we live our life. It doesn’t mean we are wrong.
Hatred and hurt is of THIS world, so we must not let it hurt us. We must rise above the patterns of this world, and do our best to build each other up to fight the hurt sowers of this world, not submit to their realities.